Change
Change: No One Stays The Same
This post was inspired by the song 'Younger Now' by Miley Cyrus.
I started thinking about the concept of change, and why it is so important to embrace. I wanted to bring up this topic, because I believe so many of us can't seem to grasp the idea of change.We fear the unknown. We like routine and a little structure in our lives. I remember fearing change for as long as i can remember. We may have our fallbacks in life, and even our successes as times, but we would never be the people we are today if it weren't for the significant events that helped captivate our minds. To finally step back from all the bullshit and say, "Fuck no. No more."
For a lot of us, starting primary school is a terrifying experience (for me it was, anyway). For the past five or so years, we don't have a care in the world. We sit and watch TV, play games and draw colourful pictures. Then comes September and your mammy is buying us new clothes, new books and packing a lunch for us and setting us off to this strange new place for several hours, filled with other kids just as terrified as we, and taller ladies/gentlemen now called "teachers." For others, change might come about when our families move house, or split up. Perhaps our older siblings aren't living in the house anymore. Perhaps we've lost a family pet. Many of us can identify the first big change in our lives- and we all somewhat remember how we felt as it was happening. It may be frustrating, upsetting or it could just be the best thing that ever happened to us.
Sometimes, we get a little fixated on the concept of change- especially when it is to do with our appearance. You can thank societal pressures for that one. The human race tends to want things done yesterday, and we rarely appreciate what we already have. We all want to be beautiful like the movie stars and the people in the magazines, but we never take a step back and say what we really want to say, or look how we want to, in fear of judgement by others. When it comes to our bodies, there will always be something nagging you that you absolutely despise; your hips, your thighs, your butt, your stomach. For me, it has always been my arms. But after years of exercise routines and dietary plans, I have seen little to no change. I started to accept that perhaps my body is just built differently to anyone else's. I lose weight from the bottom of my body, working its way to the top. I still don't like my arms very much, and I have always said that if my arms were just a little smaller, or toned, I would feel more beautiful. And I am still working on that part of my body, moreso than others in my workouts! But I've learned to accept that change can come in small or large doses, and sometimes we just need to be patient. Sometimes, if something can't be changed or "fixed" immediately, all we can do is learn to appreciate, or perhaps even love that part of ourselves.
The change in my life that will always stand out to me the most is starting counselling for the very first time at the age of thirteen. It was the first sole decision I ever made, and I will never look back. I knew it was the right thing to do for my mind and body. All of a sudden, I went from completely venting my anger out on my family or myself, and repressing any feelings I had to the point where I would break down crying, or worse, to simply sitting in a room, across from a very colourful and friendly lady, and telling her what was on my mind. I felt completely liberated from my torturous mind and soon, I became a different person. It took a very long time to become the woman I am today, and I have counselling to condode for all of it. It encouraged me to step outside my comfort zone when I didn't know how, and to never be afraid to be who I am.
Most of all, I was taught that change is the most important part of human experience. It is what shapes who we are to prepare us for the future, and any obstacles we may face. As Miley sang, "Change is a thing you can count on. You know what goes up, must come down." Never be afraid of who you used to be. Embrace the person you were before, and thank them for giving you the strength to be who you are today. No matter what you are going through: a breakup, a loss of a friend/relative, a change of environment, or even something as simple as a change of clothes or style, never be afraid of what will come of it. Never regret a thing of the past because it has made you stronger today. Go with what your heart tells you, because you never know what will be waiting for you in the future.
No one stays the same.
Love Always,
Danya x
I started thinking about the concept of change, and why it is so important to embrace. I wanted to bring up this topic, because I believe so many of us can't seem to grasp the idea of change.We fear the unknown. We like routine and a little structure in our lives. I remember fearing change for as long as i can remember. We may have our fallbacks in life, and even our successes as times, but we would never be the people we are today if it weren't for the significant events that helped captivate our minds. To finally step back from all the bullshit and say, "Fuck no. No more."
For a lot of us, starting primary school is a terrifying experience (for me it was, anyway). For the past five or so years, we don't have a care in the world. We sit and watch TV, play games and draw colourful pictures. Then comes September and your mammy is buying us new clothes, new books and packing a lunch for us and setting us off to this strange new place for several hours, filled with other kids just as terrified as we, and taller ladies/gentlemen now called "teachers." For others, change might come about when our families move house, or split up. Perhaps our older siblings aren't living in the house anymore. Perhaps we've lost a family pet. Many of us can identify the first big change in our lives- and we all somewhat remember how we felt as it was happening. It may be frustrating, upsetting or it could just be the best thing that ever happened to us.
Sometimes, we get a little fixated on the concept of change- especially when it is to do with our appearance. You can thank societal pressures for that one. The human race tends to want things done yesterday, and we rarely appreciate what we already have. We all want to be beautiful like the movie stars and the people in the magazines, but we never take a step back and say what we really want to say, or look how we want to, in fear of judgement by others. When it comes to our bodies, there will always be something nagging you that you absolutely despise; your hips, your thighs, your butt, your stomach. For me, it has always been my arms. But after years of exercise routines and dietary plans, I have seen little to no change. I started to accept that perhaps my body is just built differently to anyone else's. I lose weight from the bottom of my body, working its way to the top. I still don't like my arms very much, and I have always said that if my arms were just a little smaller, or toned, I would feel more beautiful. And I am still working on that part of my body, moreso than others in my workouts! But I've learned to accept that change can come in small or large doses, and sometimes we just need to be patient. Sometimes, if something can't be changed or "fixed" immediately, all we can do is learn to appreciate, or perhaps even love that part of ourselves.
The change in my life that will always stand out to me the most is starting counselling for the very first time at the age of thirteen. It was the first sole decision I ever made, and I will never look back. I knew it was the right thing to do for my mind and body. All of a sudden, I went from completely venting my anger out on my family or myself, and repressing any feelings I had to the point where I would break down crying, or worse, to simply sitting in a room, across from a very colourful and friendly lady, and telling her what was on my mind. I felt completely liberated from my torturous mind and soon, I became a different person. It took a very long time to become the woman I am today, and I have counselling to condode for all of it. It encouraged me to step outside my comfort zone when I didn't know how, and to never be afraid to be who I am.
Most of all, I was taught that change is the most important part of human experience. It is what shapes who we are to prepare us for the future, and any obstacles we may face. As Miley sang, "Change is a thing you can count on. You know what goes up, must come down." Never be afraid of who you used to be. Embrace the person you were before, and thank them for giving you the strength to be who you are today. No matter what you are going through: a breakup, a loss of a friend/relative, a change of environment, or even something as simple as a change of clothes or style, never be afraid of what will come of it. Never regret a thing of the past because it has made you stronger today. Go with what your heart tells you, because you never know what will be waiting for you in the future.
No one stays the same.
Love Always,
Danya x
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